Anger Management
Anger is a common and acceptable emotion that occurs in people of all ages. The problem is not anger; the problem is finding acceptable ways to handle this emotion. The following are some sources that can help teach how to channel anger in more acceptable ways.
Anger is a feeling and behavior is a choice!
The following are some questions that will help you determine if there is an anger problem and how to address that problem.
Where does this anger come from?
What situations bring out this feeling of anger?
Do my thoughts begin with absolutes such as "must," "should," "never," "if only?"
Are my expectations unreasonable?
What unresolved conflict am I facing?
Am I reacting to hurt, loss, or fear?
Am I aware of anger's physical signals (e.g., clenching fists, shortness of breath, sweating)?
How do I choose to express my anger?
To whom or what is my anger directed?
Am I using anger as a way to isolate myself, or as a way to intimidate others?
Am I communicating effectively?
Am I focusing on what has been done to me rather than what I can do?
How am I accountable for what I'm feeling?
How am I accountable for how my anger shows up?
Do my emotions control me, or do I control my emotions?
Most importantly, listen to your child. Try to understand the situation from your child's perspective. Blaming and accusing only builds up more walls and ends all communication. Deal with the present moment and bringing up the past will add to the pain of the situation. Show that you care by working towards a solution that works for everyone involved. Practice relaxation and medication.