Recognize the many milestones middle schoolers will face

Middle schoolers are still reaching milestones. And the more you're aware of them, especially the emotional ones, the better you'll understand where your middle schooler is coming from.

Along with the physical changes of puberty, your middle schooler may be dealing with:

A need for independence. The preteen years are prime time for this particular milestone. So expect your middle schooler to separate a bit from you as she begins figuring out who she is. Yes, she still needs your love and support. But she may be less likely to admit it right now.
A desire to feel responsible. Your middle schooler may bristle at being "treated like a kid." Honor her need to feel more grown up. Give her real responsibilities and allow her to make some decisions on her own, such as when to do her homework.
Waves of self-doubt. Along with more maturity, the preteen years can bring a great deal of insecurity. Help your middle schooler weather these bouts of self-doubt by praising her when she does well and catching her when she stumbles.

Fitting In

Experts say early middle school may be prime time for bullying

The first year of middle school can be stressful enough, but it may also be the time students and parents need to worry most about bullying.

During other years, boys who bully tend to be disliked by peers. But research from the University of Illinois shows that boys who bully in sixth grade are popular.

Researchers say boys might turn to bullying in sixth grade to cover up feelings of being the "little kids" in school.

Bullying is serious. Don't look at it as "part of growing up," even if the bullying is not physical. Any of the following can be bullying:

Calling others names or insulting them. (This is different than light-hearted, good-natured teasing between friends.)
Taking or destroying possessions.
Making threats.

Researchers found that children who are bullied are more likely to:

Feel anxious.
Feel depressed.
Think about suicide.

Report bullying to your child's school. Most schools have strict policies against bullying. Work with school officials to help your child.

Reprinted with permission from the March 2009 issue of Parents Still make the difference!® (Middle School Edition) newsletter